what a day I had yesterday guys....
some people, who are supposed to be professional...
o.k. I know I have a weight problem.. i look at it every day and I work at it...... this slim blonde number tells me its too late,,, that i am too far gone, that I have a diseas ( being overweight) and only this 'new product' will help me..... RIGHT! she said nothing I do will help... talk about taking away someones hope! and this was at a specialised clinic! man... somewhat depressing but maybe down but not out.......I dont want to be skinny as such but happy.....I have to lose a little to help my back.... they found my spine is fractured last week... I told them I was in pain ! hahaah
I go to the specialist today so I will let you know the outcome..... just wanted to tell someone... sick of being treated like a freak by the medical community who have no idea!
hmmmm where's my jasmine and roses........ need to garden
Laura
what a day!
Hi Laura, people just don't seem to understand other people’s struggles. Do they think I get up and look at myself in the mirror and think wow I am so good looking. No I get up and look with disgust at what I have become. Maybe I shouldn't but I do.
People think oh just quit eating so much, well it's not that easy. People don't seem to think about other life threatening habits the way they do about weight. I think weight gain is a much harder vice to deal with than most. Smoking you can just quit all together and the same with drinking. You can't just stop eating. People will say it's not the same thing but it is. I had an alcoholic father and I see the same tendencies with eating as he had with drinking.
I think people just need to get a clue. I don't want special treatment, I know I made myself this way. I just want to be treated like any other person. Give me the kindness that you would to anyone else. Well I'm done venting now. Sorry you had to go through what you did. I know you can lose what you need to, you can do anything you set your mind to I'm pulling for you.
Howie
Amen folks. I weigh 285 which is one of the reasons my knees are so bad but i lost 50 pounds from Jan 1st to Matrch and then go on the road and am so tired by evening I dont want to go to a restaurant but make do with junk food from MCds. Gained 25 back and the yo yo goes on. Ive lost a thousand pounds in all these years of dieting. Dont want to hear anyone tell me what I should be doing--I know it.Procrastination goes hand and hand with this problem.
Well, phoey, Laura. I'm sorry you had such a rotten time. I can sure relate. Ditto to everything my hubby said above. It's such a vicious circle to be in, this weight-health-weight-health thing.
I know my weight is a great contributor to the back and hip pain I have. And I know that to lose weight, I need to exercise. But it really hurts to exercise. So it's easier to be sedentary. And eat. And become more isolated. And...And...Here we go again.
I don't have any answers for you, but I am praying things will work out for you. If nothing else, you know you have empathetic ears here at DG.
(((Laura))) :-) Kimbberley
I so appreciate your honesty and support.....
I am glad that there are people who understand...
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Anyone want to try an email support group for those of us who need to work at taking off some pounds-mabe some tips and at least some real understanding
My wife and I thought about doing something like that on the health list hear. Maybe email would be better? I don't know.
I just must be in a gabby mood, as I keep finding kindred souls on DG today. I hope you all find the magic bean for the weight thing. As a lifetime beanpole, I struggled to weigh enough. Also short, I was never respected for having achieved any age. Then, all my former prayers were answered. And they were not my current prayers anyway! So, at a certain age, I began to find it impossible to keep the weight down. I don't have the major excesses people recognize as a problem (yet!), just enough to make me stiff and uncomfortable. I feel like a huge blubber belly so it's a problem just the same as if I was twice my size. But I can't lose an ounce, and when I diet and try my best, I actually gain. People will say, as if I'm retarded, it's just a matter of learning what to eat and when. No, it's not!! And my body demands that I eat or don't eat certain things, offering no sympathy at all for my concerns of avoirdupois. I try to look in the mirror and convince me I'm still just fine, but all the pep talks in the world don't overcome that mental thing, the self image I have to carry with me all day. Honestly, being bald from chemo wasn't as bad as the extra pounds.
anything aimee that attacks our self esteem isnt good... I know how you feel.....
but we have to soldier on.. and I am not giving you platitudes here I wouldnt think of it!
I find a lot of emotional and spiritual support on here.. there are real friends here who care and understand.... and like the comfort you sent me... i send it back to you..... you are an amazing person, there is so much more to you than what is on the outside....
and I hope for both of us that one day we will be able to look in the mirror and see God's likeness and be happy.
Laura
Right on Laura. I have to appreciate the person God sees in me rather than what I see in myself or imagine others see in me. Thats the only way I can survive.
Hi Guys !!
Me again !!
Someone told me once ... "Never say DIET".If your mind THINKS it's being denied , You will desire MORE !! YOUR NOT on a diet ... You (WE) DONT need to lose wieght.We WANT be to feel better.
Sometimes it works ... At least it's a POSSITIVE thought ! I for one need all those I can get !!
Smile ... It's the BEST !!
love to all!
NOWeedSZ
thanks noweedz.................
Isn't it funny how we call some foods "good" and some foods "bad"? I believe everything is okay, in moderation. Ah, that's the key. We've become used to Supersizing and increasingly larger servings at sit-down restaurants. Howard and I love healthy food - veggies, salads, lean meats, etc. But we also love the really high-fat, high-calorie, nutrient-deficient foods so cheaply available. Shoot, we just love food! This months' Reader's Digest has an article "Why Marriage Makes Us Fat" and boy is it ever true! We need to be a positive influence on one another!